In summary, being too stubborn to stop can mean many men end up achieve the wrong goals in life. These questions will prompt some deeper feelings and allow you to truly investigate the reasoning behind why you might feel the need to quit something - they will assist your decision to step away or double down. If I quit, what will I be giving up am I still prepared to do so?.The main reason that this X isn’t working for me is…?.I am specifically considering quitting because…?.If so, here’s a few points to assist you in determining if something you're considering quitting is either strategic or reactive: Sleep on it, step back from the situation, create some space/get outdoors, seek counsel from trusted persons, ask yourself introspective questions such as: I hope that you’re starting to see that when thing’s aren’t adding up for you in life, you might need to start subtracting? I hope that you’re starting to feel different about quitting. Shiny object syndrome gets in the way and something shiner (or easier) is chosen instead.Someone wasn’t serious or committed when they first started.The results don’t come quick enough and interest is lost.The goal hasn’t been planned out in advance.If you’re unsure if something you’ve quit in the past is reactive, if you regret it, it probably is… Reactive quitting is when a man throws in the towel and it’s usually based on some form of emotional, in the moment decision. Important to note here is how strategic quitting differs from reactive quitting. You’ll sacrifice a pawn in the hope that doing so will gain you an advantage – that’s what strategic quitting is.
Typically, it’s when you make the decision to end something in order to take advantage of greater opportunities. Paraphrasing his work, he talks about strategic quitting as ‘the secret of successful people and organisations’. My aim here is to share with you the skill of ‘strategic quitting’ so that you will recognise that quitting is a necessary step toward, not the stereotypical egoic success often celebrated by men, but the deeper or meaningful versions of authentic and fulfilling success.Īuthor and thought leader, Seth Godin speaks extensively about strategically quitting in his brilliant book, ‘The Dip’.
Most men don’t know this, but can quit successfully. They quit their diet, their fitness routine, their job, their marriage…Īgain it’s life, these things do happen but many men will try to hide their quitting, they’ll try justify it or they’ll quit in such spectacular fashion that they're embarrassed by whatever outcome they experience. The truth is that all men quit something. Think about this, if all you had to do to become successful, happy and healthy in life is not quit, then why aren’t there many more 50/60 year old successful, happy and healthy men out there? 'The win at all costs, the don’t quit, the failure is final mindset is still a prevalent trait in modern day masculinity and that’s why ‘quitters never win and winners never quit’ is not only a risky attitude to adopt but also terrible advice to pass on'. The men that are prepared to overcome whatever’s in front of them by simply persevering indefinitely or by being potentially too stubborn to stop. Some would argue that challenges and obstacles in life are nessecary in that they help us form our identity and that they bring us a deeper sense of purpose and meaning to who we are, and who we’re becoming.Īs men, when we face a challenge or an obstacle, there’s a particular danger, a danger is defined as, ‘the possibility of something unwelcome, unpleasant or harmful happening’ and it’s especially apparent for those go getting, ‘red types’. Challenges and obstacles are a part of life.
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